Uncertainty and Frustration Whether you actually felt a change from “having to” quarantine or not (let’s be honest), life definitely changed for everyone in one way or another when everything shut down. Post mass toilet paper freak-out, things arguably got even weirder. Coronavirus and politics aside, life had become very uncertain in the simplest, yet […]
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Being Okay with “Good Enough” from a Recovering Perfectionist
Jenny Helms, LCMFT Discusses her Journey as a Recovering Perfectionist You Aren’t Alone, Trust Me Admittedly, I still struggle with accepting “good enough” or being “okay” at things from time-to-time. Noticing patterns of my past, I used to work as hard as I could to be as good as I could at every venture that […]
Domestic Violence: Why Can’t They “Just Leave”?
Prior to becoming fascinated about the dynamics of domestic violence, I remember thinking: “Why don’t women/men in these relationships just pack up their bags and leave?” or “Why don’t they just go to a shelter?” Initially, I understood very little about the complexities of walking away or the complexities of staying. According to NY Times […]
Hitting Rock Bottom: What Can We Learn and Gain from Life’s Woes
Whether by fate, transition, or poor choices – we all struggle with the horrible, hitting rock bottom (i.e. “woes“) in our life. Throughout my life I’ve faced trials in multiple arenas (I’m far from perfect – and that’s okay). However, the gifts I take from these moments are opportunities for growth and learning. We can’t […]
How Avoiding Other People Means Rejecting Ourselves
What Avoiding Other People Means to Us When we are avoiding other people or dealing with a situation, we are really saying no to the hard things that are coming up within ourselves when dealing with that situation. *Whether we are conscious of these hard feelings or not.* This is really unfortunate because those hard […]
Hugs Can Transform Your Relationship – Here’s How!
X’s over O’s? Plenty of couples spend time, energy, and money trying to fix relationship problems, increase intimacy, or simply kick things up a notch in their relationship. Well, there is a free way to do all of the above that is often overlooked and underrated: Hugs. Yes, hugs help all of the problems listed […]
When Your Loved One Hurts You
We’ve all been there. We are talking with a loved one and out of the blue something inside of us gets triggered by what they say. Our thoughts and body begin moving faster than we can process and we get that feeling of discomfort deep in our gut or a racing in our chest. “What […]
Substance Abuse: Why Jail Fails People Who are Struggling with Addictions
*To preface this article, I want to start by saying that this is not about police bashing or to put out fear or disconnection to any sort of agency in America, this is about giving both an empathetic and responsible look at the War On Drugs and the system we are currently using with the […]
When Happiness Feels Bad
Although millions of people search endlessly and spend copious amounts of money searching for the key to “happiness”, some people find happiness to be a really anxiety-provoking emotion. This is because happiness is an extremely vulnerable emotion. As people review their lives in their head they start to think, “Life is good right now…the family […]
Embracing Failure to Succeed
As we begin our week, may we be brave enough to remind ourselves that embracing failures is a necessary part of our journey to success. In the past, I have tried to avoid failures at all costs, thinking that if I failed at something the pain of my often self-inflicted shame would consume me. Much […]